I remember when I first moved to Greece, I began working with Jake, a bright and curious eleven-year-old with ADHD. One afternoon while sitting with him, I noticed how he struggled to finish his homework, his foot tapped restlessly against the floor, and his fingers drummed against the table. He got up walked around and kicked a ball. "I try so hard to sit still," he admitted, "but I just can’t think." The frustration in his voice was clear. He wanted to try, but he also wanted to be himself and release all that energy. 

Then there was Mia, a thirteen-year-old with dyslexia who dreaded reading aloud in class. "The letters move around" she once told me. "By the time I figure them out, everyone is waiting and I am so embarrassed." She had a gift for storytelling and an incredible imagination, yet traditional reading methods often made her feel like she was failing. 

And Ella, a seven-year-old with autism, who used to grind her teeth and clench her fists when asked a question in a social setting because the social interaction was too much for her. I remember her once describing that uncomfortable feeling, "My cheeks burn, they are teasing me and I just start to shake and get angry". While other children flow naturally into conversation, for Ella, it’s a moment of sensory overload and intense anxiety that can set the tone for the rest of her day. 

Neurodiversity is all around us, in our families, schools, and communities. It includes people with autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, Tourette’s syndrome, and other neurological differences. Each neurodivergent individual has their own way of thinking, learning, and interacting with the world. And when families and communities embrace neurodiversity, it creates a world where these children feel accepted, valued, and understood. 

Why Embracing Neurodiversity Matters 

When neurodivergent children are pressured to behave like their neurotypical peers, it can be exhausting. They may feel the need to mask their natural behaviours—holding in stims, forcing eye contact, or suppressing their need for movement. This masking is mentally and physically draining. It makes it harder to focus in school, participate in social activities, and develop a strong sense of self. 

"When we embrace neurodiversity, we create spaces where children feel safe being themselves. " 

This leads to better mental health, a stronger sense of identity, and the freedom to develop their unique strengths. Just like a healthy ecosystem needs different plants and animals to thrive, society benefits from the diverse talents of neurodivergent individuals—creative problem-solving, deep focus, innovative thinking, and expertise in special interests. 

How to Embrace Neurodiversity in Family Life 

You don’t have to be neurodivergent to support and celebrate neurodiversity. Here are some ways you can foster an accepting and inclusive environment at home: 

1. Talk About Neurodiversity: Explain to your children that everyone’s brain works differently. You could say, "Some people’s brains work in unique ways. That means they learn and make friends in their own way, too." 
2. Use Books as a Starting Point: Books like Some Brains: A Book Celebrating Neurodiversity by Nelly Thomas for young children or The Spectrum Girl’s Survival Toolkit by Siena Castellon for older kids can help start meaningful conversations. 
3. Create Inclusive Social Activities: If your child is inviting a neurodivergent friend to a party, ask their parents how you can accommodate their needs. Simple changes—like a quiet space or a detailed schedule—can make a big difference. 
4. Encourage Different Communication Styles: If your child has a friend who prefers nonverbal communication, help them find ways to connect through drawing, texting, or shared activities. 

Embracing Neurodiversity in the Community 

Beyond family life, there are many ways to support neurodiversity in your broader community: 

1. Be Mindful of Language: If you’re unsure how someone prefers to be identified, just ask. Some may prefer "autistic person," while others may prefer "person with autism." 
2. Challenge Misconceptions: If you hear someone making an uninformed comment, like assuming a child is "badly behaved" for having a meltdown, consider speaking up. Educating others helps create a more understanding world. 
3. Avoid Assumptions: A child wearing noise-cancelling headphones at a supermarket might not be rude or antisocial, they might just be managing sensory overload. 
4. Advocate for Inclusivity: Support initiatives that create sensory-friendly spaces, like quiet shopping hours with dimmed lights and no music. 

Working with neurodivergent individuals reminds me why embracing neurodiversity isn’t just important, it’s necessary. It allows neurodivergent individuals to live authentically, without fear of judgment or exclusion. It challenges us, as a community, to value differences rather than trying to erase them. My experience of their world highlights why understanding and embracing neurodiversity matters. By walking in their shoes, we learn, grow, and create a world where every child, neurodivergent or neurotypical, feels seen, heard, and valued. And that’s a world worth building. 

For confidentiality reasons, pseudonyms have been used in place of the real names of the students mentioned in this article.

References: 

Neurodiversity and neurodivergence: A guide for families. Raising Children Network. (2024, May 24). https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/a-z-health-reference/neurodiversity-neurodivergence-guide-for-families  

Neurodiverse parents: Managing sensory overload. PANDA. (n.d.). https://www.panda.org.au/articles/neurodiverse-parents