Earlier this month, our school had the privilege of hosting Dr. Niovi Michalopoulou, an esteemed clinical psychologist and founder of Ως Αιδώ, for her insightful seminar “Talking to Our Kids About Sex and Sexuality – We Can Do This!”

In just two hours, Dr. Michalopoulou not only unpacked the science and psychology behind human sexuality but also gave us the practical tools and courage to start open, ongoing, and age-appropriate conversations with our children.

Her key message?

The “big talk” is far less effective than many small ones -conversations that begin early, evolve with our children, and build the foundation for healthy, respectful relationships.

Why Sexuality Education Matters

Sexuality is a natural and essential part of human development. Yet, despite best intentions, many parents hesitate to discuss it openly, often believing their child is “too young” or unsure about how to start. But as we learned in the seminar and through resources like RaisingChildren.net.au and the Making the Big Talk Many Small Talks guide, early, age-appropriate conversations about bodies, feelings, and relationships lead to healthier decisions later in life.

Studies consistently show that children who engage in open dialogue with trusted adults are more likely to:

• Understand and respect bodily autonomy and consent
• Develop healthy self-esteem and body image
• Make safer choices around intimacy, sexting, and digital content
• Delay sexual activity and use contraception responsibly if and when they choose to become sexually active

It Starts with the Body

Helping children understand their changing bodies demystifies puberty and reduces shame. When children know that menstruation, wet dreams, and masturbation are normal parts of development, they are more likely to feel secure and confident. Using correct anatomical terms and answering their questions without embarrassment encourages them to treat their bodies, and others’,  with respect.

Talking About Affection, Intimacy, and Respect

As children grow, their questions naturally extend beyond biology to include curiosity about love, intimacy, and relationships. These are perfect opportunities to introduce important themes such as emotional readiness, boundaries, mutual respect, and consent.

Dr. Michalopoulou reminded us that we must teach children that intimacy and sex are not just physical acts, but deeply personal choices influenced by trust, care, and responsibility. These lessons are not meant to encourage early sexual activity, on the contrary, they empower children to think critically and make thoughtful, values-based decisions.

Sexual Health and the Digital World

In today’s hyperconnected world, children and teens are more exposed than ever to sexual content online. The risks, from sexting and pornography to body shaming and cyberbullying, are real and increasing. According to the Making the Big Talk Many Small Talks guide, children aged 8–12 are already encountering sexual language and concepts from peers, media, and the internet.

By having regular discussions at home, we help children build resilience and discernment. We must teach them:

• The legal and emotional consequences of sharing or receiving explicit images
• How to set digital boundaries and respect others’ privacy
• That pornography does not reflect real-life relationships or bodies

The Role of Healthy Habits

Sexual health is not just about protection and consent, it’s also about how young people care for their bodies and minds. A healthy diet, regular exercise, enough sleep, and strong emotional support are all key to developing a positive sense of self. Teenagers are biologically wired to take more risks due to their developing brains. By teaching them how to look after their physical and emotional well-being, we equip them to make better choices in all areas of life.

Respect, Kindness, and Consent

Ultimately, sexuality education is about values. It’s about raising young people who are not only informed but also kind, respectful, and emotionally intelligent. When we speak with honesty and openness about relationships, we reinforce the importance of empathy, accountability, and mutual care.

Let’s embrace these conversations as opportunities - not threats. Let’s normalise asking questions, making mistakes, and learning together. As Dr. Michalopoulou encouraged, we don’t need to be perfect, just present.

If you would like support or further resources to continue these conversations at home, I encourage you to explore the following:

Raising Children Network – Sex Education for Children

American Sexual Health Association – Parent Resources

Ως Αιδώ: Free Sexuality Education Resources

Webwise.ie – Online Safety

Tooled Up Education-Sexual Education